Relationship Blog

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A positive attitude is very important in working out your relationship as an optimistic mindset is obvio, don’t you think? You should be rational and logical. In case you think in a negative pattern, try to change it for the betterment of your relationships. You should try to accept the situation and work on it. Do something that you like. Whenever you think a negative thought is entering your mind, try to think positive. This also results from your surroundings. It’s said that there’s a universe revolving around you. Keep it filled with positives, don’t let some stupid and unhealthy fellow ruin it.Spend time with positive people. Compliment your spouse whenever you catch a chance. If you find a fault, make them understand with love not with shouts that would make them feel embarrassed instead of making them feel special. 

If your spouse is negative, they may be dealing with the fear of perception or fear of not being good enough. Imagine them coming home and taking it out on you. work on keeping the negativity out not for their sake but yours.

This would help you in keeping a positive attitude towards your relationship. Remember, no relationship is perfect!(though you feel everytime that it is!) Every relation has its own differences, conflicts and challenges to accept and work on it. Research shows that married people have a five percent lower chance of diseases . Married people get the support of their families resulting in lower blood pressure. Communicating, understanding and spending time with spouses would lead one to a successful relationship.

Rough roads lead to good destination, keep in mind. So don’t stress or freak out if it has achieved some roughness. But focus on getting it back on track. Remember certain things are necessary for a long smooth running healthy relationships: Keep the JIPO factor out. J- jealousy I- insecurity P- Possessiveness O- obsessiveness. No comparison with other couples and for you your partner matters, handle he/she with utmost care and love.

Intimacy is the priority, it does not mean sex. It is about trying to keep your relationship lively and happy. Have a one to one conversation. Here text messages don’t work at all, infact leaves a negative effect. Speak about problems and discuss them and reach a solution, don’t leave it in the middle. Show some love gestures, let it be a simple I love you, every now and then! Understand your partner. Spend time with each other, also a prime importance. Be there for each other whenever needed. You can spend time even while doing chores. A study found that partners doing chores have higher relationship  satisfaction.

You should keep all the communication channels open. Emotional connection is very important for a healthy relationship. Arguments happen in every relation but the focus should be on solving them . ‘Words hurt more than action’, think before you say anything to your partner during an argument. Yet, a study showed that a few arguments are beneficial to relationships.

You should also keep a note of the nonverbal hints of your partner. For example, your spouse comes home tired and hugs you. Do not push him/her away and let them down, give them enough warmth to let their drained energy revive. Learning to compromise. For example, A give and take relationship is important, but it should be a fair compromise. Conflict is inevitable, try to not accuse your partner or bring in an old argument. It would lead to further allegations. Put your efforts in let go of certain things. 

Be flexible to changes, as they are to come now and then adapt them with full willingness and acceptance.

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Nowadays, with the help of the internet and social media it is easier to maintain relations. Given the Earlier people used to send letters and face to face conversations helped a lot.

Physical distances are now tackled through technology. Couples and families living far away, are now connected on face-time and feel closer to each other.

Almost everyone today is an active social media user, busy publicizing their private life,(just kidding, it’s a personal choice). Thus, it has become a good way of showcasing oneself. This can let you decide if you want to enter into a new relationship with a particular person and also helps in checking your compatibility. And as scams are too common in this beautiful world, be CAUTIOUS!!!!

You know in single parent families, children face emotional trauma because of the fights between their parents. In such a case, they need some form of stability, in the sense that they need the attention of both their parents. Even if parents have parted ways, they can still interact with their children living away from them via technology. 

You might have experienced broken relations or heartbreaks. There are a lot of things that are important for a healthy relationship. Yet sometimes we tend to ignore some important stuff.

Yes, it is always that expectations complicates and we often expect our partner to read our body language and know what’s on our mind. For example, your spouse keeps shushh in an argument. You might think it is because they are losing. But it could be their way of waiting for an apology or anger. Some people compare their relationship with someone else’s relationships. You would have seen another couple in a park or a car close and enjoying each other’s company. This will only make you feel worse.

To maintain a long term relationship, trust and compromise are two basic fuels needed. You should have faith in your partner. At times, we try to avoid conflicts and live in fear of being alone. For instance, the girl may not talk about the issues in the fear that it may exaggerate the fight and he would leave her. This is unhealthy for a relationship. Compromise is what keeps relationships alive. It is not about giving up your choice of food for dinner. Compromise is “the conscious choice” to accept each other for exactly who you are.